Once, a young woman who loved a man for 6 years, asked a wise older woman why she thought this man was about to marry another young woman he had known for a few months. The wise older woman said, "Well, he didn't need you." Ouch. "And you didn't need him; people NEED each other for that kind of relationship to happen." (Or something to that basic effect - the young woman momentarily blacked out from confused rage, but fortunately came to in time to remember the conversation.) Several years later, the young woman reflected on this scene, after having recently finished reading significant portions of books about psychology, human relationships, intimacy, co-dependency... you get the idea. She remembered a wise man once recounting a piece of advice another wise man had told him, in relation to choosing, or not choosing a mate: "If you can live without her, do."
This young woman used to think this was a smart philosophy: it's a pretty black and white elimination process. But as she sat and thought about this, it made less and less sense to her, and seemed more and more ridiculous. "Do people choose each other based on need alone? Isn't choosing to be with someone merely because you desparately need each other a sign of some sort of dependency problem? And what's this about only choosing a mate because you can't live without her/him? I mean, hell - I can live without ice cream. But why the fuck would I?!"
Friday, September 9, 2011
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Saturday, October 2, 2010
My ongoing Romance with the Weather
Today is the Quintessential Beautiful Fall Day. The Sun is out in full force, the Trees are swaying loudly now and then like strong and pretty dancers showing off their strangely colorful costumes, and the Air is crisp, cool, and shiny! I can almost Hear the Sun, beaming and broiling and pulsing; I can Feel the Leaves airily tickling around on my arms, my hair, winking and smiling; I can Taste the Air, in which I detect ironically, the flavours of confinement to this Blue Orb and intelligent contentedness and holy desire for It. Yes, it's a real Commitment We have going on here, and We Love Each Other... through all kinds of Seasons.
Sunday, September 26, 2010
The World According to Karen
Highly sensitive, creative, artistic people cannot be told what to do. We must learn what to do, through our experiences, our hearts, and our own minds.
Monday, June 21, 2010
Teeter Totter
Teetering on the brink; one side is elation, one side is surrender. Do you really want what you want? You know elation is a hard as hell road, but you also know that to slide down the side of surrender is death. Difficult or death... hmmmm....
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Three Months
It's really lonely when you get involved with someone who has very specific expectations. When you don't meet them, you kind of feel like you aren't even there; you aren't being seen. I try to view people objectively, get to know them as they truly are. It seems this can make me appear cold to the one with the expectations. I think it makes me appear fair.
Of course, I have been the one with the expectations and it's lonely there, also. It too, can make you feel as if you aren't even there; you aren't seeing your reflection. It takes two people viewing objectively to make a real connection happen.
The true meeting of two souls, even for the flash of an instant, is a rare treasure, not to be taken for granted.
Of course, I have been the one with the expectations and it's lonely there, also. It too, can make you feel as if you aren't even there; you aren't seeing your reflection. It takes two people viewing objectively to make a real connection happen.
The true meeting of two souls, even for the flash of an instant, is a rare treasure, not to be taken for granted.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
I call it.... "Corner Store Mocha/100% Colombian Blend"
I was feeling down, lethargic and distraught;
Whatever could I do for this day not to be naught?
"Perhaps caffiene will do the trick" I said to my self with hope
And sure enough, I took one sip and knew that I could cope!
My self said, "Hmm, perhaps you have some psychological dependency,
Or a medical condition like a vitamin deficiency?"
I said to my self, I said, "Self? Naaahhhh...
For I am a human machine
And coffee is but my gasoline."
Whatever could I do for this day not to be naught?
"Perhaps caffiene will do the trick" I said to my self with hope
And sure enough, I took one sip and knew that I could cope!
My self said, "Hmm, perhaps you have some psychological dependency,
Or a medical condition like a vitamin deficiency?"
I said to my self, I said, "Self? Naaahhhh...
For I am a human machine
And coffee is but my gasoline."
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